1. Attack those prejudices which lead you to undervalue
yourself.
2. Acknowledge your qualities and don’t discount them.
3. Accept compliments as signs of acceptability, rather
than deflecting them, recognizing that they matter.
4. Stiffle the inner critic by thanking it and
apologizing to it.
5. Put the inner critic and the exaggerator in a box
with the lid shut.
6. Bury the judge within you that applies double
standards – an unfairly strict standard to you, and a generous standard to
others.
7. Do not let the judge bias your expectations or make
negative productions.
8. Do not let it make you impervious to success and
susceptible to failure.
9. Put it in the same box as the critic.
10. Do the best you can, but don’t berate yourself for
not being perfect.
11. Make the ideal a guide but not a daily standard.
12. Do not be a perfectionist, just aim at better
self-esteem.
13. Evaluate yourself independent of your achievements.
14. Spend time with people who make you feel good.