1. What area of communication am I really good at?
- Do I feel handicapped in some areas of communication, like public speaking, writing reports, writing articles, persuading others, etc.?
- Have I accepted this handicap unquestioningly so far?
- Am I satisfied with my present level of competency and performance?
- How do I sound while communicating?
- How do I look while communicating?
- How many languages can I handle with ease?
2. Do I find it necessary always to have the last word?
- Do I tend to speak more than I listen?
- Do I enjoy listening to my own voice?
- Do I try to listen actively and empathise with the viewpoint of others?
- Do I keep arguing mentally with the person I claim to be listening to?
- Do I second guess others and put words in their mouth while they are speaking?
- Do I find it necessary to win an argument always, and to be seen winning it?
- Do I feel an inner compulsion to keep talking when I am in company?
- Do I feel uncomfortable with spells of silence?
- Do I really try sometimes to keep quiet internally and externally?
3. Am I open to suggestions and ideas from others?
- Do I try to be open to the perceptions of other people?
- Do I try to accommodate other person's point of view?
- Do I ask for feedback about my performance and behaviour?
- Do I give the other person a fair hearing?
- Do I charge ahead with my own complaints, grouses and criticisms?
- Do I seek the viewpoint and version of those whome I criticize?
- Am I blunt and aggressive, or shy and withdrawn?
4. Is my criticism of others based on good reasons?
- Have I got into a habit of finding fault with others?
- What could such a habit mean?
- How do those at the receiving end of my criticism feel?
- Do I tend to be supportive of those I criticize?
- Do I offer them concrete suggestions for improvement?
- Do I criticize more than I encourage and appreciate?
- Do I pay attention to the small, positive achiements of other people?
5. How do I respond to criticism?
- How do I feel when someone criticizes me?
- Can I recall specific instances when I was criticized?
- Did I get defensive and tried to justify myself?
- How do I feel when I have to deal with someone who is always blaming others?
- How do I feel when someone is always condemning and running others down?
- Do I hit back?
- Do I sulk and attribute motives to the other person?
6. Is there a pattern to my responses?
- Is my behaviour strongly determined by praise and blame from others?
- Have I got into a set pattern of responses when I am praised or criticized?
- Do I blame more easily than praise?
- Do I have a difficulty in praising or appreciating others?
7. Do others see me as a warm and supportive person?
- Do I feel positive about myself?
- Am I always preoccupied with my own self?
- Do I find time to notice achievements of a colleague, subordinate, child or servant?
- Do I go ahead and acknowledge them?
- Do I appreciate the little gestures of concern others extend to me?
- Do I feel handicapped in some areas of communication, like public speaking, writing reports, writing articles, persuading others, etc.?
- Have I accepted this handicap unquestioningly so far?
- Am I satisfied with my present level of competency and performance?
- How do I sound while communicating?
- How do I look while communicating?
- How many languages can I handle with ease?
2. Do I find it necessary always to have the last word?
- Do I tend to speak more than I listen?
- Do I enjoy listening to my own voice?
- Do I try to listen actively and empathise with the viewpoint of others?
- Do I keep arguing mentally with the person I claim to be listening to?
- Do I second guess others and put words in their mouth while they are speaking?
- Do I find it necessary to win an argument always, and to be seen winning it?
- Do I feel an inner compulsion to keep talking when I am in company?
- Do I feel uncomfortable with spells of silence?
- Do I really try sometimes to keep quiet internally and externally?
3. Am I open to suggestions and ideas from others?
- Do I try to be open to the perceptions of other people?
- Do I try to accommodate other person's point of view?
- Do I ask for feedback about my performance and behaviour?
- Do I give the other person a fair hearing?
- Do I charge ahead with my own complaints, grouses and criticisms?
- Do I seek the viewpoint and version of those whome I criticize?
- Am I blunt and aggressive, or shy and withdrawn?
4. Is my criticism of others based on good reasons?
- Have I got into a habit of finding fault with others?
- What could such a habit mean?
- How do those at the receiving end of my criticism feel?
- Do I tend to be supportive of those I criticize?
- Do I offer them concrete suggestions for improvement?
- Do I criticize more than I encourage and appreciate?
- Do I pay attention to the small, positive achiements of other people?
5. How do I respond to criticism?
- How do I feel when someone criticizes me?
- Can I recall specific instances when I was criticized?
- Did I get defensive and tried to justify myself?
- How do I feel when I have to deal with someone who is always blaming others?
- How do I feel when someone is always condemning and running others down?
- Do I hit back?
- Do I sulk and attribute motives to the other person?
6. Is there a pattern to my responses?
- Is my behaviour strongly determined by praise and blame from others?
- Have I got into a set pattern of responses when I am praised or criticized?
- Do I blame more easily than praise?
- Do I have a difficulty in praising or appreciating others?
7. Do others see me as a warm and supportive person?
- Do I feel positive about myself?
- Am I always preoccupied with my own self?
- Do I find time to notice achievements of a colleague, subordinate, child or servant?
- Do I go ahead and acknowledge them?
- Do I appreciate the little gestures of concern others extend to me?