1. Isn't it easier to objectively observe how other people lose their cool than when you lose your own cool?
2. In real life, you will find people around you exhibiting all manner of eccentric behaviour, and if you examine such behaviour with detachment, you will notice that these people often mirror your own behaviour.
3. Remain alert to the way other people argue, quarrel, are obstinate and arrogant, snipe, bully, express anger and happiness, give and accept compliments, are unreasonable, are impatient, seek importance and authority, demean and run others down, and so on.
4. With time, you could make the shift to standing outside yourself and observing your own behaviour as if you were an interested bystander.
5. Remind yourself that what holds good for others, holds good for you too, and using other people's behaviour as a mirror to oneself can be a big investment in self-development.
6. It pays to watch others closely as their unconscious body signals could alert you to your own body language in similar circumstances.
7. As you observe others closely, you will become more deeply aware of their individuality, and will realize how little you know about others and about yourself.
8. When someone provokes you, be grateful for the opportunity to watch your own conditioning and your reactions, as it will allow you to take your first tentative steps towards accepting yourself as you are, with grace and compassion.
9. In the bargain, you will direct any guilt that you may feel, not against yourself but towards looking for opportunities and making your own healthy choices for the future.
10. This leads to greater empathy, synergy and less talking down to people, and awareness resulting from such a process can lead to more openness and less vindictiveness, thus promoting a positive atmosphere of change.
2. In real life, you will find people around you exhibiting all manner of eccentric behaviour, and if you examine such behaviour with detachment, you will notice that these people often mirror your own behaviour.
3. Remain alert to the way other people argue, quarrel, are obstinate and arrogant, snipe, bully, express anger and happiness, give and accept compliments, are unreasonable, are impatient, seek importance and authority, demean and run others down, and so on.
4. With time, you could make the shift to standing outside yourself and observing your own behaviour as if you were an interested bystander.
5. Remind yourself that what holds good for others, holds good for you too, and using other people's behaviour as a mirror to oneself can be a big investment in self-development.
6. It pays to watch others closely as their unconscious body signals could alert you to your own body language in similar circumstances.
7. As you observe others closely, you will become more deeply aware of their individuality, and will realize how little you know about others and about yourself.
8. When someone provokes you, be grateful for the opportunity to watch your own conditioning and your reactions, as it will allow you to take your first tentative steps towards accepting yourself as you are, with grace and compassion.
9. In the bargain, you will direct any guilt that you may feel, not against yourself but towards looking for opportunities and making your own healthy choices for the future.
10. This leads to greater empathy, synergy and less talking down to people, and awareness resulting from such a process can lead to more openness and less vindictiveness, thus promoting a positive atmosphere of change.