WHY DO PEOPLE FAIL TO UNDERSTAND OTHERS?
1. Understanding people certainly impacts our ability to communicate with others.
2. It gives us the potential to influence every area of life, to make a positive impact on your world, and to fulfill our desire to be successful in life.
3. The biggest mistake, in trying to talk convincingly, is to put our highest priority on expressing our own ideas and feelings.
4. What most people really want is to be listened to, respected and understood.
5. The moment people feel that they are being understood, they become more motivated to understand our point of view.
6. A recurrent source of tension in our society is not difference of opinion or inability to agree, but lack of understanding each other which emnates from many reasons.
7. Fear:-
a) When people don't understand others, they often react by becoming fearful and rarely try to overcome it, which becomes a vicious cycle.
b) In a healthy environment, if we give others the benefit of doubt, and replace fear with understanding their viewpoint, everyone can work together positively.
8. Self-centeredness:-
a) It is human nature to think of one's own interests first.
b) One way to overcome our natural self-centeredness is to try to see things from other people's perspectives.
c) By empathising, we can discover our own mistakes from viewpoints of others.
9. Failure to appreciate differences:-
a) We should learn to recognize and respect everyone else's unique qualities.
b) Instead of trying to cast others in our image, we should learn to appreciate their differences.
c) This learning can broaden our horizons and help us relate not only to them, but also to others and strengthen leadership and motivation.
10. Failure to acknowledge similarities:-
a) We all have emotional reactions to what's happening around us.
b) To foster understanding, we should think of what our emotions would be if we were in the same position as the person we are interacting with.
c) We know what we would want to happen in a given situation, and chances are that the person we're working with has many of the same feelings.