1. During childhood, when curiosity, initiative and enthusiasm are checked drastically by disciplinarian mentors, there is a strong danger of the victims surrendering their internal control mechanism to the external environment, and such people can block change in their lives by adopting this victim posture in their behaviour, which can quite often border on paranoia.
2. When you realize that the attitude of surrender to external forces, which your self-talk forces on you, is not your own but has been thrust on you by circumstances, then it is possible to adopt new mental messages.
3. You will then constantly remind yourself that it is the meaning you put on the behaviour or utterances of other people which makes you angry, not the provocation itself.
4. You will also alert yourself to the fact that no one can make you angry against your own will, and you will take back your power to control your life and will now assume responsibility for your own well-being, instead of surrendering this control to the environment.
5. Recalling a few concrete past incidents can help you to understand the nature of your self-talk better, by re-examining your self-talk, stated and unstated responses in situations when you did not feel very confident about yourself, or when you were praised, or when you were criticized.
6. Your new self-talk can start off with a strong sense of self-affirmation and self-worth, by deciding to give priority to being authentic and self-directed, instead of being dependent on others for your well-being.
7. If your self-talk tends to be negative, stop and assure yourself that your well-being lies in dropping the self-destructive guilt and blame which you have inherited from your social conditioning, and remind yourself that your happiness lies in being affimative about yourself and not in being pushed around by your negative self-talk.
8. Assert your right to make your own choices as a free individual, tell yourself what you are going to do by visualising yourself as a positively charged person, feel good about yourself in your new avatar and let that new talk and positive image sink into your subconscious.
2. When you realize that the attitude of surrender to external forces, which your self-talk forces on you, is not your own but has been thrust on you by circumstances, then it is possible to adopt new mental messages.
3. You will then constantly remind yourself that it is the meaning you put on the behaviour or utterances of other people which makes you angry, not the provocation itself.
4. You will also alert yourself to the fact that no one can make you angry against your own will, and you will take back your power to control your life and will now assume responsibility for your own well-being, instead of surrendering this control to the environment.
5. Recalling a few concrete past incidents can help you to understand the nature of your self-talk better, by re-examining your self-talk, stated and unstated responses in situations when you did not feel very confident about yourself, or when you were praised, or when you were criticized.
6. Your new self-talk can start off with a strong sense of self-affirmation and self-worth, by deciding to give priority to being authentic and self-directed, instead of being dependent on others for your well-being.
7. If your self-talk tends to be negative, stop and assure yourself that your well-being lies in dropping the self-destructive guilt and blame which you have inherited from your social conditioning, and remind yourself that your happiness lies in being affimative about yourself and not in being pushed around by your negative self-talk.
8. Assert your right to make your own choices as a free individual, tell yourself what you are going to do by visualising yourself as a positively charged person, feel good about yourself in your new avatar and let that new talk and positive image sink into your subconscious.