1. When we feel the compulsive urge to control others due to our conditioning, it is because we are ourselves controlled by the conditioning in the first place, and which can leave us feeling emotionally and spiritually empty.
2. This awareness should help us to be compassionate towards ourselves and accept our weaknesses and vulnerability, which will give us the freedom to learn to choose and decide, instead of blaming others for irritating us, and our compulsive one track will be replaced by a sense of humour, by creativity and joy in life.
3. When we own up responsibility for our behaviour, we also own up responsibility for the consequences and thus take charge of our lives, instead of blaming the world or others and allowing external factors to take control of our lives.
4. Committing yourself to a full life starts with a belief in oneself and encompasses family, work, impersonal relationships and so on, which help you to look at difficulties and even catastrophic events as challenges and opportunities.
5. Externally controlled persons are less competent at coping with problems than those who have internalised their control, which makes for more flexibility, creativity, hardiness and emotional immunity, enabling you to handle life's problems and challenges more confidently, though you may not win always.
6. If you feel controlled or feel like reacting impulsively, put the situation in a larger perspective and you will be able to shake of the control of the emotion, thereby bringing your creativity back in play.
7. The need to impress others is another form of externalised control because there is no end to trying to be what others expect you to be, as different people might have different expectations from you, whereas your goal should be to be yourself and be liked for what you are.
8. When you assume responsibility for your thinking and your actions, you are more open to people and situations by becoming flexible, and your choices and decisions are made out of awareness rather than ignorance.
9. On the other hand, if you get conditioned by a successful way of doing things, it can curtail your ability to respond to changing situations with new initiatives, and control will then control you unless you take charge.
2. This awareness should help us to be compassionate towards ourselves and accept our weaknesses and vulnerability, which will give us the freedom to learn to choose and decide, instead of blaming others for irritating us, and our compulsive one track will be replaced by a sense of humour, by creativity and joy in life.
3. When we own up responsibility for our behaviour, we also own up responsibility for the consequences and thus take charge of our lives, instead of blaming the world or others and allowing external factors to take control of our lives.
4. Committing yourself to a full life starts with a belief in oneself and encompasses family, work, impersonal relationships and so on, which help you to look at difficulties and even catastrophic events as challenges and opportunities.
5. Externally controlled persons are less competent at coping with problems than those who have internalised their control, which makes for more flexibility, creativity, hardiness and emotional immunity, enabling you to handle life's problems and challenges more confidently, though you may not win always.
6. If you feel controlled or feel like reacting impulsively, put the situation in a larger perspective and you will be able to shake of the control of the emotion, thereby bringing your creativity back in play.
7. The need to impress others is another form of externalised control because there is no end to trying to be what others expect you to be, as different people might have different expectations from you, whereas your goal should be to be yourself and be liked for what you are.
8. When you assume responsibility for your thinking and your actions, you are more open to people and situations by becoming flexible, and your choices and decisions are made out of awareness rather than ignorance.
9. On the other hand, if you get conditioned by a successful way of doing things, it can curtail your ability to respond to changing situations with new initiatives, and control will then control you unless you take charge.